Here is a good example of a hogtie. This bound position leaves a person virtually unable to move. A classic position of submission, even in a sexual position. A pose of offering oneself to another. Giving what one can give without any holding back.

By being bound in a hogtie, a person also surrenders their pride, and shows humility in being tied in what some would say a demeaning way. The way a pig is tied for transportation, hence the term hogtied. But again, one who doesn't understand the art of bondage and the relationship of a dominate and his/her submissive, would think that such a thing is demeaning.

But this is the magic that is such a relationship. For one to give themselves totally to the person that trust and revear. It really is a beautiful thing. A thing that cannot be ignored, just denied by others.

But when it is in your heart, one cares nothing of what others think, and how they will try to judge.

i give to you as no other
i will not submit to another
to see you care for me
for you i shall always be

feeling the pain that you do
sharing the the pain with you
just to see you happy with me
is all i ever want to be

take me as i am
i will give you all that i can
without hesitation
i want to be your presentation

never will i be for another
for you i would deny a brother
our bond, strong it is, yes it is
held together by the strings of your hands

Strange and all the same. Isn't it? Life that is. Memories come and go, and sometimes they stay for awhile. Hibernating in your brain and stirring up the cold. Sometimes they kick at the fire and warm things up. But memories, the metophorical bears that hibernate in your brain. Sometimes I hear something or see something and a memory comes back to me.

I remember one such instance. There was something that she could do to command that respect and adoration. Something that any woman can do when they find the secret to their man's desire. It may be something quite simple. Nothing that is all that difficult, but means more to him that you will ever know. I remember one time my mistress wore something that was beyond words. It is alot like when my lady wears certain things. There is no explination for it, simply at that particular moment, God stopped, and looked. And his reaction was the same as mine. After all we were made in his image, so a stiff response would not be out of the question.

A outfit, costume, cosplay, lingere, or any particular article of clothing that really gets your noodle going. You know, "sweater puppets" didn't come from nowhere. I have you seen a finely endowed woman, protectivly carrying her bosoms in a flatterly blue turtleneck sweater?

Well this particular outfit, I was reminded or when remembering the video to this song. The picture above was as close to it as I could find an image for. I scanned this off one of my Sheena: Queen of the Jungle books, and was going to use it as a background, but couldn't find a text color that was readable. So as I was looking for an image, I remembered this one. Then I remember why I liked this book, and found the cover more entertaining than the contents. (Smile)

Memories are a wonderful thing. And to remember them as memories, and go on, they really are a far out trip. And thank you for taking this trip with me. Hope it was enjoyable.

Eternally . . . Her_Slave

I guess I really wasn't speaking all that clearly on the post "A Thin Line". At least my words weren't as clear as my thoughts were. Also SOB (Slave of Bennet) made an interesting comment . . .

"By the way, I think I left a question of yours unanswered. How do we female slave submit to the male Dom, knowing the potential for harm. One word.
Trust.
Complete and total trust in my Master."

SOB

Did I just forget that small, but big part of any relationship, whether it be a submissive/dominate relationship or a father/son, owner/pet?  I mean in all relationship, trust is the most important ingredient for it to be successful. 

I believe that a lot of my concerns of male dominate men, is that I have know too many ladies (outside of BDSM) that have been in abusive relationship, and seen the damage to which a dominating man can do.  So then I feel that it is something that I must avoid.  Or to make up for it, must be submissive myself.  Because being submissive is just so natural to me, that I couldn't think of it being any other way.  Nothing prevented me from giving myself to my mistress completly, except the apprehension of offending her through my ignorance of the relationship.  But she was patient with me, and supportive, so that I could come to find who I really am.

I have found no other relationship besides my lady and children, more fulfilling in my life then the one I had with my mistress.  I have probably said it before, but she helped me become who I am perhaps just as much or more than my own parents.  And while the influences of them both had positive impacts on me, my mistress accepted me for something my parents would not have.  So knowing that, I wasn't abnormal or "fallen", I found new confidence in myself.  Once I could accept myself, I could allow others to, as my lady has.

So when SOB, mentioned trust, it was like DUH!  (Smile)  But, my mistrust of the male gender, because of the few bad apples, makes me scared for women.  But if SOB has said that her trust in her Master is unshakable, then he has obviously done to her, right.  And that makes me very happy for their trusting and fulfilling relationship.  There is nothing more gratifying then seeing two people happy together, no matter what type of relationship that it is.

And I am happy and fulfilled with my lady.  And that is why I am  . . .

Eternally . . . Her_Slave

 

This type of restraint usually starts with the wraps around the wrist, holding the hands together. To continue the bind, the rope is then wrapped over the initial wraps, between the hands. Then pulled down and "braided" for strength down to the mid-back. When wrapped around to the chest, the rope can either be bound around the chest, or as in this case, a woman, it can be bound below, above, or around the breasts. It is then pulled up and around the upper arm, as the subject holds their bound arms over and behind their head as in the picture. Once the rope is secured around the arms, it can then be wrapped around the wrists once or twice and then secured at the original start of the bind to with a finish knot or wrap to secure it in place. There is a true talent to rope bondage.

Although, as I have said before, I have seen it preformed many times, as the subject, but have never had the chance to try it myself. Perhaps it is best. I am not good with knots. I can tie my shoes that is the extent of my tying capabilities.                                                                                                                    


i hear something alone
the sound of the phone
i long to hear her
i imagine that she is there

she is in the other room
but my only thoughts are of her doom
can not imagine why i can not fly
although i try

my thoughts reside on her
but not on her
a ring that meant the world
now i can not find, not a word

it is not fair to her
to not move on, beyond her
holding onto a band of gold
that god has taken, so bold

two women, forlorn
one dear and gone
one dear and alone
one man, much to atone for

Eternally . . . Her_Slave

Is submissiveness gender specific?

Some may feel that submissiveness is just the same as oppression. But the difference is that one can give their submission, whereas oppression is always forced upon one that doesn't want to submit.

I think the fear that comes from being dominate, as a man, is the fine line that reaches into forced subjection. This is quite delicate, as a man who wishes to misuse his physical or mental power over a woman reaches into sexual crimes. That being what a man is after when violating a woman.

Now I know that there are plenty of well-meaning and understanding Masters that know how to treat their slaves as they would want to be treated. But just as their is a fine line between pain and passion, there is between submission and subjugation. That is why it is beyond my capability to be dominate.

Is submissiveness gender specific?

Is it easier for a man to submit to a mistress than it is for a lady to submit to a master? Well since I am not a woman, I can't really say much on their side. But for a man to submit to a woman, he must not relinquish anything. There is no danger. Not to say that a woman cannot bring harm to a man physically. But for a man, because of society, it is not as a woman.

Just random thoughts.

Am I really off? Is it just me? Lady slaves, how do you submit yourselves to a man without fear?

Eternally . . . Her_Slave