Bizarre? That's a lot coming from me. But then this picture just seemed to capture my attention.

For some reason it reminds me of the "cinemax" form of bondage and domination that the average person might see. Ironically it is far from the real thing. I'm sure just as porn is not always the perfect display of what sex is all about.

I remember one time, watching such a movie. It was on late night cable, or some Playboy movie that I had downloaded from the Internet, back before I visited a mistress. I did find it somewhat intriguing as to what was on the screen. However, as in most things for me, I don't just take one source at face value. I like to investigate many different sources, so as to make an educated conclusion or choice.

Upon investigating a bit more on bondage, and the many forms that it comes in, I found what I though most intrigued me. Not what vanilla, or mainstream (those doing it for the novelty) bondage seemed to me, but those that made it an art, a way of life, or a part of themselves.

That's when I came upon the Japanese form of bondage, shinju (as I described in a previous post) . . .


Shinju is more than just bondage, it is art, beauty in real form, a painstaking process of patience and skill. It's about more than just the sexual satisfaction that comes with bondage, it is appreciation of the submissive and the beauty that the master/mistress is able to wrap them in.

I have never had the pleasure (but maybe a small desire) to be able to bound someone in the fashion of shinju. However, in my place, it was not mine to do. I have however, been able to be a part of such beauty in rope bondage. Not to say that it was me, as the subject, but the artistic talent of the mistress.

Some day maybe I will be able to explore being on the other side, if and when my lady is willing to do so. But until then, I can only share what I can from being bound, and not being the bounder.

Eternally . . . Her_Slave

the beauty of body
the beauty of soul
tied together as one
displayed for all

there is beauty
wrapped inside those gentle strands
intertwined with seduction
modeled for a tease

a monument to silence
a tombstone for movement
a tribute to elegance
a legacy in its own

think for a moment
think real deep
for what is on display
surely is a feat

the beauty of body
the beauty of soul
tied together as one
displayed for all

the beauty of her

Eternally . . . Her_Slave

Suspension bondage, for the lack of the offical term . . .

This takes the bondage one step higher, no pun intended. The art here is to find the perfect distribution of rope, so as the body is not hung in a fashion that can cause extreme pain.

Many times straps are used to loop around the load bearing knot, or strand of rope, so that the suspension is pulled from the rope itself and not the body. As in this illustration, the strap is wrapped around the rear arm restraints, which are then pulled around her chest. This makes the strap pull up on her entire body and not just one part. The arm restraints, being wrapped around her chest, pull the arms towards the body. Something along the lines of when someone grabs you around the waist and lifts you up.

For some reasons, suspension bondage, is alot like St. Andrew's Cross. Both take the body off the ground, thereby surrending the body even more. By removing one's feet from the security of the floor (as well all feel a bit more secure when our feet are well grounded) it enables the dominant to have more control over his/her slave.

It gives the "high" of a freefall, so to speak, but at the same time restricts the person for real movement. And since bondage is about restraining someone, then this technique fulfills its obligation.

I personally have never been bound and suspended. But have been suspended using arm restraints, such as these . . .



Both bring to the bound person the same effect, to a certain degree. It mostly depends upon one's mistress/master as to how much restraint that they feel you need.

Eternally . . . Her_Slave

Is there any earthly beauty more than Bettie Page?

Bound at that!

Randy Baby!

Eternally . . . Her_Slave

For most the act of submission isn't instinctive.  As humans we all want be our own person and not be told what to do all the time.  From childhood, even infancy, we all push our boundries and test our limits.  No one wants to be restricted.  At least within the freedoms that are within government laws and human decency.

So what is it that makes submission to someone else in the atmosphere of sex, so appealing?  Is is perhaps because in sexual passion we tend to let down what we desire, but don't want anyone to know about.  In a dimly lit room, with the noise and hustle of the world, is shut off to us, this is where we are who we really are.  Think, if you can't be honest with yourself, then you cannot be honest with someone else.  And you certainly cannot be the keeper of your partner's secrets.  But why hide behind closed doors?  What is it about sex that turns the brain off and the body on?

If you want someone to give you anal sex, well then whether that be your partner or an instrument, then go for it, if your partner is willing.  Don't be ashamed.  The more that we hide these types of feelings and urges, the more disastorous things can become.  I've heard on more and more occasions that the two reasons for divorce were sex (adultry, lack of sex, wrong kind of sex, etc.) and money.  Why?  Well because money sucks, but is a nesseciary evil.  And, sex, because we don't let ourselves go.  Adultry, affairs, brothels, prostitutes, and yes even mistresses, are here because people stiffle their true sexual desires.  And that is not an absolute.  There are I am sure some that go their seperate ways BECAUSE they don't share the same sexual preferences.  But at least they were HONEST.

You will say I am shallow for this, but I found out myself personally.  Honest discussions of sex with a potential partner, should be early and often.  We like to think that we are more than most mammals on the planet, but no.  We eat, sleep, and have sex.  Just because the animals don't have to work, own a home, car, deal with money and politics, doesnt make them stupid.  When we deny what our body tells us, like eating, it reacts.  Granted stiffling sexual urges are not going to kill you (that's what masterbation is for) but they can ruin a relationship.  If I had been honest from the start of my relationship then I would have been enjoying the fruits of honesty, since the start of it.

Sharing your sexual desires and plays are a great thing for a relationship.  A great thing for two people who trust each other.  Whether it be someone who you deeply love, or someone that just knows how to have a hell of a time.  Be honest with him/her.  You'd be surprised what people are surpressing out of fear of ridicule.  There is a good rule that you can basically learn someone's sexual secrets . . .

The more rigid someone is the more they are keeping to themselves.

 

 

be honest and you'll be plesantly surprised

Eternally . . . Her_Slave